Don’t for an instant agree to move in together with the thought that this is going to be the make or break of your relationship. What you should really be hoping for is that it will be a positive and beneficial move for you both. Even so you should also be aware of some of the reasons why cohabiting could ruin a relationship and one of these is that you move in with each other too soon. Another is that one or both of you aren’t really ready for such a big commitment.
Moving in together can be wonderful and for many it will be like a dream come true. But for a moment, consider the downside and why moving in together could tear the relationship apart.
Problems you might come up against that you don’t feel ready for that could take the stars out of both your eyes include:
Do you both know what you are letting yourselves in for? – This is a major move that is likely to bring big changes to both your lives. If one or either of you are going into this without having giving it thorough thought, this could lead to future problems or disappointments and an eventual separation.
Differences over money ~ Do you share the same spending-habits and financial philosophies or is one partner more spendthrift or mean than the other? Have you agreed on how household expenses will be shared? Financial problems in the future can cause immense stress within the relationship and could be the ruination of something that could have been quite wonderful had you been more prepared.
Do you know enough about each other before moving in together? – What could ruin a fantastic relationship is discovering aspects of each other’s personality that had not been noticed before. Could one partner be lazy, untidy and disorganised while the other is the opposite? This might work if you’re prepared for it. It won’t work if it takes you by surprise. One partner may be possessive and domineering making the other feel restricted and unhappy. Differences in daily routines, expectations as individuals and as a partnership and even over hygiene and personal cleanliness could cause strain on the partnership.
Where life before moving in together will have been fun and obviously with less shared responsibilities, all this changes now. Rushing into such a commitment is not a good idea. The more thought, planning and discussion that goes into it, the more likely the relationship will last.
Without careful consideration and moving in too quickly could lead to the ruination of the relationship.