Visitation and Child Support are never ending battles. While visitation may stop being an issue when the last child turns eighteen, Child Support can go on for years longer based on how far the non-custodial parent is arrears. These two issues are hot buttons for both sides of the equation.
Now in a legal stance these two issues are separate, meaning you can’t with hold one due to non compliance for the other. So you are not allowed to withhold visitation because the other parent has decided that you are solely responsible for the children. It also means you cannot withhold child support for lack of visitation.
Visitation is a court order that outlines the days awarded by the courts, these order have steep penalties for violation. However not showing up for visitation because of what you perceive will happen is not a reason that will hold up in court. Many non-custodial parents do not show up nor show any interest in the children then want to blame it on the custodial parent.
Visitation is a responsibility not a privilege as Judge Sandra Pomrenze likes to state. The children have every right to expect to see their non-custodial parent on the days that are afforded them in the visitation schedule, if they do not show, who holds them accountable for the damage done? No one the only recourse per the judge is to take the time away so the children do not get hurt time and time again by an absent parent.
Child Support is usually awarded to one of the parties in most child support cases. Most states have formulas to figuring this amount out based on how many children and income. Nevada has $100 per child per month minimum along with their formula. Child Support is not optional; it’s not something you can pay when you get around to it. Child Support is your reasonability to care for the children. Just because you have excuses like economy, jobless, or disability does not mean that the children stop growing, eating or needing. When you bring a child into the word they are your financial burden till they are at least 18. That does not change with divorce. Non-custodial parents cannot take the attitude well I was not awarded custody so let the custodial parent pay for everything. It leaves the children missing out on much needed things like braces.
Child Support is a felony for not paying and I so agree with that. If someone can’t be responsible for their children then take everything. Maybe then they will decide to put their children first. There are many work programs out there that will help folks find jobs. However it takes work drive and motivation to find them. It takes the willingness to do what right even when it’s not the easy thing to do. It takes putting your children first over everything and anyone else. Raising children is not easy, raising children is expensive and it’s not in the child’s best interest to make one parent shoulder the financial burden all by themselves.
I’ve heard non-custodial parents use the excuse that instead of paying child support they could volunteer at the child’s school or babysitting their children while the other parent works… am I the only person that thinks they should be doing that anyway?? Child support has nothing at all to do with Visitation or being involved in the children’s life it’s about being financially responsible.
In this I really think that both parents need to be held to a higher standard. There needs to be free and open communication between both parties. There needs to be higher penalties for failure to live up the expectation of the court. I think that the children need to be placed in front of everything and everybody. They needed to be loved and taken care of like the special gifts they are. I think personal feelings of the parents need to be set aside in light of doing what’s best for the children. So to all parents out there I encourage you to step up or step out of the children’s life