The “Friend Zone” is the area that has caused men troubles for many years. Some men are able to avoid its dangerous lock, while others can’t help but fall into the trap.
Many guys strive to extricate themselves from the “friend zone” and move into a romantic relationship, but this is neither easy nor necessarily advisable. Obviously, the ideal situation is to avoid falling into the “friend zone” to begin with. But here are the tips I can offer to those attempting an escape from the “zone.”
First, don’t even think about it if it’s not possible. If you know, for some reason that this is an impossible job, an attempt will just torture you for the rest of your life. Reasons for this being impossible could range from a relationship that would not work due to looks (this could be true for a male or female), previous relationships with a common friend or even restraints caused by work or family reasons.
Moving on, my key would be to introduce some sort of sexual tension to the situation. Don’t worship her every step, but drop not-so-subtle hints that you would love to be in a relationship with a girl like her. The odds are strongly against her making a move on you if you’re already friends, so the ball’s in your court.
When it becomes clear that you are attracted to her, this will hopefully start to spark ideas in her head. Start flirting with her and see how it goes. That doesn’t mean making creepy or overly-arrogant comments about yourself or her like many of my friends tend to do. Everyone has their own style, whether it’s subtle touches, close-talking or whatever else you’ve got up your sleeve.
Do not insult any guys she is with or guys that may be trying to do the same thing as you. This will just make you seem small and petty.
If you feel there is mutual interest based on your increased flirting and compliments, then go ahead and make your move. Maybe that is giving her a kiss, maybe something else (use your imagination, just don’t take TOO big of a step). Not that I would ever recommend such a thing (and definitely not to anyone under the age of 21), but having a few drinks to take the edge off can certainly help you be a little more comfortable in that situation if drinking is something that you do.
In the end, things may work out beautifully, or they may fail. It’s important to realize that losing a friend very well could be a byproduct of attempting to jump from the “friend zone” to a romantic relationship. Strongly consider whether you are actually romantically interested in this friend and not just horny before you even think about making the jump. Sometimes things are not meant to be. If things don’t work out, don’t beat yourself up. You likely fell in the claws of the “friend zone” and things were no fault of your own (at least that’s what I’d tell myself).