The following question has been raised: Should spouses get a free pass if their significant other cheats on them? Thank you Tiger Woods.
In July of 1958, a Texas Instruments engineer named Jack Kilby ushered in the “Age of the Small” with the introduction of the world’s first working integrated circuit. Since then smaller and smaller devices have been designed to hold larger and larger amounts of data. In the future, technology will enable us to store information on a sub-atomic level. Nearly everything that can be miniaturized has been, including philosophical questions.
The subject of this article is proof that philosophy is taking on questions of ever decreasing scope and magnitude. Philosophy, once the milieu of Aristotle, Plato, Socrates, Kant, Descartes, and other great minds who ruminated on the on the most basic existential questions about the human condition has been reduced to this: Is it okay to cheat on your spouse if they cheated on you?
Are you kidding me?
Emphatically no, it is not okay.
Two Wrights may have made an airplane, and three rights may make a left, but we learned in third grade that two wrongs do not make a right.
Is it acceptable to for that guy with road rage to tailgate you, because you cut him off without using your turn signal? I don’t think so.
If you break a commitment or a promise to someone, is it appropriate for the injured party to slash your tires, or scratch the paint on your car with a key? Give me a break, please.
Two wrongs make a right is a fallacy in which a person justifies his/her action against another person by asserting that person would do, or has done the same thing to them. Cheating on your spouse because he/she cheated on you is hypocrisy of the worst kind. It amounts to nothing more than “revenge sex”, which may provide some sort of short term satisfaction, but is ultimately empty, meaningless, and just plain mean. Besides, how do you stand in front of a judge and berate your spouse as an adulterer, when you are an adulterer too?
Making love should be an intimate act of sharing, not a weapon. If your spouse has cheated on you, I feel your pain. You do have options. You can do your best to forgive, if not forget, and try to reconcile with your cheating husband/wife. If you can’t get beyond the hurt, leave the cheater behind and move on with your life. But as long as you remain in the relationship, responding in kind to infidelity cannot be condoned on any level.