Are you wondering if you should go on a blind date? Did a friend, sibling, roommate or coworker ask if they could set you up on a blind date? Are you trying to decide if you go, or just politely say, “Um, no thanks”? It is understandable to be indecisive on going on a blind date.
A quick answer to the question if you should go on a blind date is, “Sure! As long as you are in a safe, public place, why not?” A blind date can be fun, a great way to get to know someone, and even offers the chance to perhaps find your soul mate. There are many people who have met their future spouses on blind dates.
However, before deciding to go on this blind date, you should question the person setting you up.. Ask him/her, “How did you meet this person?” You might also want to ask, “How long have you known him/her?”, “Why do you think we’d be a match?”, etc.
It’s an excellent sign if the person setting you up on the date has known this person for a long time. Now, if your friend just met him/her last week in the laundromat, you might think twice about going on the blind date. If the person really can’t give you an answer on why the two of you would be a good match, you might still go on the date, but don’t get your hopes up for anything special.
There are three important things you should remember about a blind date. First of all, the blind date should not know where you live. This is for safety issues, should the date be the stalker / psycho type. Second of all, you should definitely go to a public place on a date. This could be a restaurant, coffee shop, putt-putt golf center, bowling alley, etc. You should not be alone with the date in a car unless you truly feel comfortable about it. Third, it is best if the blind date is kept short, no more than two to three hours at the most. If the date is truly a match, you will have plenty of time to date in the future.
It’s important to take this date with a grain of salt. If you meet the person, and he/she is definitely not someone you’d be attracted to, try not to take it personally. Make a mental note to never go a blind date planned by the same third party again. It can be hard to be offended, especially when you think, “Did so-and-so really think I’d be attracted to this type of person?” However, it is best to just give the person who set you up the benefit of the doubt.
If you are feeling uncomfortable or uneasy about going on a blind date, and truly don’t want to go, then by all means don’t go. You are a grown adult, and can make your own decisions. Do not let the friend pressure you into going on a blind date. You can consider making it a group date, where you go with the person setting you up. Or, simply, say “No, thanks. I think I’ll stick to dating the old fashion way.” If the friend keeps bugging you, it might be time to find new friends.
If you do decide to go on the blind date, try to have fun and have an optimistic attitude. If you aren’t sure what kind of questions to ask on the date, please read “10 Random Questions to Ask a Guy on a Blind Date.”
Should the date work out, and you continue dating, you might read “Fun and Creative Date Ideas.” It can also be helpful to take a look at, “20 Signs You’re Dating Mr. Wrong.” Good Luck!