There are several marriage and family relation problems that inevitably lead to separation, and eventually divorce. Couples face these problems every day. Some couples manage to get through the problems, with or without counseling, but some just cannot handle the stress, therefore the marriage ends, sometimes violently (physically or emotionally).
There are several types of marital problems that lead to divorce, including financial problems, long-term illness, a child born with a handicap, relatives and jealousy issues. A child born with a handicap often leads to financial problems and undue stress on the family.
When couples experience any marital and family relation problems, the added stress exacerbates the problem, causing additional fighting between the partners, between other relations and between the children. The stressed couple begins to show symptoms of the stress and problems in work product and in their relationships with family and friends.
Identify the problems before the stress becomes unbearable. If you notice yourself becoming short-tempered and impatient with your spouse, your children and even your friends and relatives, take a step back and look at the issues causing you stress. If you or your spouse lost a job, it is going to cause financial problems. This is a simple identification of a family relation problem that causes marital issues. If you feel jealous about something, approach your spouse with your feelings. Your spouse should be able to alleviate your feelings.
If the problems cannot be alleviated, the marriage ends in divorce or separation. If the marriage ends in separation, it is possible, with outside help, to repair the relationship. If the marriage ends in divorce, depending on the state you are in, one of the parties loses the marital home, the parties’ credit ratings might be scarred, the family unit is broken up (which is particularly bad for young children) and the parties are forced to struggle to make it on their own.
If communication is not working, you should initiate counseling. Attend counseling yourself, then let the counselor suggest ways that you might entice a stubborn spouse to attend either joint counseling or individual counseling at the same time you are undergoing counseling.
With individual counseling, both parties can learn to communicate with each other, attend joint counseling and then have the ability to resolve their problems or find a way together through those problems.