I have tried for over a year to potty train my youngest who, I understand has learning disabilities. She has it down to go number one in the potty, to clean up, flsuh and put away her seat (I wanted to potty train directly with a potty becuase toddler ones gross me out). Two things she hasn’t learned is to tell me when she has to go. So, this has me sitting her on the potty every hour including when I have to go, when she gets up from bed, a nap, goes to bed, before we go anywhere and after we return. It’s a a lot to remind myself and when wer are out, a bit more difficutl becuase I’m usually running errands. The other issue is her going number two in the potty. She’s done it a couple of times but not more than 50% of the time. She just seems to make a mess of herself in her pull-ups. And each time I know she has to go no matter how soon it’s been since she has been sat in the potty, it doesn’t work.
I don’t give her drinks and hour before bed and don’t stock her up on soda. And I know that night time trainig is the last thing to really teach a child. I don’t want to have to keep up with her pull-ups and a new borns diapers. My oldest caught on quickly and is essentially a big kid. I just can’t figure how even a four year old with disabilities can’t comprehend that she should be doing this by herself already. And as of tommorow I have to talk to the elementary school about possible enrollment. I have spoken to a teacher all ready about her potty issues and she told me to bring in a chart of her potty times and when she has accidents. This, I have done. My one worry is not only the fact that she wont be near fully potty trained before her brother is born but that if it’s taken a year for her just to get number one down, how long is it going to take for her to understand the rest? Does this mean that sleep overs are a definite “NO” for a set number of years to come? Is she just that unable to understand the potty factor when she can clearly use an XBox 360 to put in a movie and try to push play when we never taught her directly how to do that?
And the two most important questions, am I doing something wrong and why is it she can’t understand?
She used to be scared of the potty, as she is with just about everything else, and I’d have to sing to her just to get her to let go of me and stop screaming. And before that she didn’t walk until she was two years and nine months old.
I’m frustrated and don’t know if this will pass. Could I please get some advice. I am tired from the pregnancy so it doesn’t help when I get mad with her. Which is another reason why I haven’t written much.