As a child your birthday party was your annual right of passage. We all looked forward to it when we are a kid and again, when we were old enough to have children of our own. Unfortunately, when you throw that party and your guests badly behave, or your guest list has you a bit worried, or you have a few snafus, there can be a damper on the birthday celebration. Here are a few things you can do to keep the ‘happy’ in your child’s birthday parties:
1. You Need to Decide On Who to Invite to the Birthday Party
Many of your child’s birthday invites will go to their classmates. However, there is no rule to say that you must invite everyone from his or her class. If you do, than the invites can be handed out to everyone at school. If you and your child have decided not to invite everyone, than invites must be mailed to those selected. Even though the cost is inexpensive, try to mail those invitations instead of emailing them. Your child will learn a great lesson in etiquette.
2. Use the Proper Birthday Party Invite Etiquette
Many times a child is excited about their upcoming birthday party and will talk about it to everyone. Explaining to your child how that talking about it and the invitations can hurt the feelings of those who were not invited. Parents also need to be careful about the birthday party invites your child may have received. Other parents may have children who were not invited.
3. Try Not to Make Assumptions on the Birthday Party
Unless the birthday party invitation specifically includes your child’s siblings, do not bring them. Many times the sibling is either an older or a younger child of the one invited. Having a guest who is of a different age than the other children at the birthday party can be difficult for the birthday child’s parent. Party favors and games will have all been setup for the age group of the birthday child.
4. Bringing the Right Birthday Party Gift
When selecting a birthday gift to bring to the party, keep in mind the parents of the birthday child. Don’t pick out a drum set unless you do not want your child invited to another birthday party. Toys with a million pieces to them are usually not recommended as well. If your child is throwing the party and you want to teach your child the gift of giving, ask that each guest bring a donation to the party. New stuff toys are great to give to the local hospital as a donation for example.
5. Slow Down the Birthday Party Gift Opening
Most kids if left to their own means will rip open birthday packages with great abandon. This is reckless and thankless to the guests at the birthday party. Your birthday child needs to learn that each gift given is special and they should acknowledge the time, money, and effort that went into getting it for them.
6. Remember the Thank You Notes After the Birthday Party
Another rite of passage to your birthday child is the thank you note. All gifts no matter how big or small must have a hand-written note sent to the birthday guest who gave it. Many kids will procrastinate doing thank you notes, but insist that they get in the mail within two weeks after the birthday party. This will insure that your child not only acknowledge the gift, but also that they enjoyed having their friends to their birthday party. A gracious birthday host, who has said thank you, will be invited to many birthday parties as well.