Do you have over protective parents? Do you feel like they are constantly saying no and wanting you to stay within their sight? Do you feel like they treat you like a baby and don’t see that you have grown up? Well, don’t worry you are not alone, although your friends may not act like it their parents probably act the same way.
Don’t worry though, you aren’t destined for a life of solitude. There are a few things that you have to realize and understand for you work with having over protective parents. You will find that once you master the tips below that its easier for you to understand what they are feeling and for them to understand you.
1). You are their baby. There are two words that you will always have to remember; umbilical cord. That’s right, no matter how old you get, you will always be their baby. They will always want to cuddle, and shield you from the outside world. They have spent your entire life with you dependent on them and then all of a sudden, they turned around and your almost grown. They are having to make a huge adjustment to you becoming more self-reliant and independent. Its not an easy adjustment and is hard for most parents.
2). Be mature. It can be difficult handling over protective parents. However, screaming and yelling will get you nothing. It only gives them a better reason to tell you to stay home. Its better for you to let it go and act like an adult. The more that they realize how mature you are the less they will worry and the more inclined they will be to let you fly the coop once in awhile. Remember: You + Maturity = Freedom.
3). Make a point to help around the house more. While chores aren’t exactly the most exciting thing to do, they are like the elixir of life. As you start working around the house more, and taking the pressure off mom and dad, they will begin to really notice you. Then the next time that you want to go out, they will remember how helpful you have been and may likely tell you ” Sure, go ahead you could use a break.” Now, you must be helpful all the time, not just when you want to go out. Do your parents know what you’re doing? Yes, however they are quite happy to act oblivious and keep the situation running smoothly. Also, this tactic will establish you as a mature individual capable of making intelligent decisions; a big plus for you.
4). Don’t completely shut them out. Parents can be embarrassing, however don’t completely shut them out of your life. They want to and have a right to know who it is that you are hanging around with. Instead, ask about having your friends over for dinner. This shows your mom and dad that are making an effort for them to be included in your life. Its a fact that the more your parents know about your friends the more inclined they will be to let you out of the house more often. You may even be surprised, the parents that you think are nerds may be really cool to your friends.
In conclusion, remember that maturity is the key to getting out of the house. For you to be considered an adult you must act like one. You must keep your parents informed, and included. They are still your parents and regardless of how big you think that you are; you are still their child living under their roof. Meaning that no matter how much they may frustrate you, their rules apply.
