When you go out of your way to do something for somebody else, you are being a friend to them however when they don’t do the same for you, you sit back and wonder if you’ve done something wrong or if you’re not a true friend to them. It’s not that at all, it’s them not being real to you about their feelings or what you mean to them. Sometimes we have friends that we choose to trust with secrets and sometimes we choose people that really shouldn’t be trusted.
It’s not about you or I at all but it’s about being able to trust one/another. Do friends mean everything to you or are you just going to sit back and ignore people that should matter the world to you other than your family. The truth is, they should be your second family. If these people do not mean that much to you, why are you calling them your friend?
Acquaintances are people that you know but wouldn’t do anything for. Is it something that you would call somebody you love and care for, just an acquaintance? What does that word mean to you? That’s not even the issue here, the issue is deciding if everybody you call your friend is worth of that word. What does that word mean to you? The word, friend means so many things to me and here are a few things it means to me:
Somebody I’d die for
I have people that I care about and would do anything for but if they don’t feel the same about me, perhaps I’ve picked the wrong person to care for because friends should be people that you would jump through fire for.
Somebody I go to for help
Do you go to Sally or Sue for help, if you don’t go to them when you are in time of need then perhaps they’re not people you trust and then maybe they’re not your friends. It’s not really an offensive thing to call somebody your acquaintance however it should be really offensive if you call somebody your friend and don’t mean it. If you don’t mean it why would you do that, call them your friend?
Somebody that I trust
Do you trust everybody you call your friend? Perhaps it’s time to re-think what you use that word for because I think the word friend should be reserved for people you trust and would trust with anything you ask them to do. There are many levels of trust and I ‘m not saying you have to trust everybody the same way but you should be able to have a minimal amount of trust in somebody for them to be called a friend.
Those are just a few things I would use to describe people I call my friends but then remember I’m one of those few people that doesn’t believe that everybody they meet is actually friendship material. I’m picky and that’s just how I am but what about you? What do you call a friend and what kind of characteristics do they need to have in order for you to call them a friend?