Can cell phones kill relationships? How ridiculous. How could a communication device cause relationship problems? Here’s how. Unlimited texting and call plans give people access to each other 24-7, 365 days a year. Too much privacy with lack of breathing room can destroy relationships. Before mobile phones and cell phones, people saw each other in person and called each other on the phone. Even with cordless phones there was still an element of publicity with a home phone. And parents usually set time limits on how much time one family could talk on the phone at one time.
Now, with cell phone plans offering unlimited calling and texting, there are no boundaries. Adults, teens and even young children walk around perpetually glued to their cell phone. Day and night, all day every day. Many people send hundreds and even thousands of text messages. With bluetooth technology, the cell phone user is constantly plugged in to the phone. I’m not referring to work related phone calls and text messages. I’m speaking of the endless text messages, usually no more than two or three words, that amount to precisely nothing in conversation. Endless texting really amounts to one stream of constant chatter and small talk. And there are very few people who enjoy that kind of talk.
How does constant texting kill a relationship? To begin with, no one functions well under continued periods of being ‘on call’. It’s unnerving to hear the constant buzz or beep of an incoming text message. Constant texting makes the partner in the relationship feel a lack of privacy. If she takes a shower or goes to the bathroom and finds six text messages during that brief period, it really amounts to an invasion of privacy. If the partner gets angry about missed text messages when he gets no reply, this can drive the person being texted literally bonkers. And when the text messages just amount to ‘hi’, ‘where are u?’ what r u doing?’, constant texts of this kind become a form of stalking.
Texting is time consuming. Texting takes attention away from matters at hand. And if said matters are driving, working or other important matters, texting becomes dangerous. Most employers do not allow cell phone usage at work. And if the employer overlooks or doesn’t see the cell phone usage, continual texting will eventually sabotage a person’s performance and work record. Receiving texts and calls causes strain among employees and employers, which in turn causes resentment between partners in a relationship. Very few people can think of that much to say to anyone, no matter how in love they may be. Endless calling and texting gets boring, tedious and really annoying. It will almost surely kill a relationship. For more on relationship health issues, visit me at www.onintimacy.blogspot.com.