I started to think I was the common denominator…. In the past year, I have been invited to two weddings that were called off (both times by the bride-to-be). But in actuality, calling off a wedding these days isn’t as unheard of as it used to be. I say Brava! not only to my girlfriends who did it, but to every woman who has had the courage and strength to call off a wedding. Deep down in your heart, you knew that something was wrong with your relationship.
To those of you who are still struggling with your Future Mrs. status, consider this: With the divorce rate as high as it is, why on earth would you want to marry someone unless you were one hundred and twenty percent sure that’s who you want to wake up with every morning? You owe it to yourself to be happy, and if there is anything telling you that your fiancé is not The One, listen to your womanly instincts – they are powerful, and are there to guide you through life’s tough decisions.
Yes, pre-wedding jitters are very common, but sometimes it’s more than just cold feet. Here are a few signs that you should call it off:
Your Googling led you to this page. Um, hello? Your internet search is trying to tell you something. If you are literally researching whether or not to call off your nuptials, then by all means, call it off. It’s just like when someone asks you: “Are you in love?” and you hesitate. You should know in your heart and in your gut the honest answer.
This thought has entered into your mind: “Hey, if it doesn’t work, we can just divorce each other.” First of all, why go through all the expense of a wedding and a divorce. Pick one, just one, and stick with it. Your future financial health will thank you. Besides, you might have to live through another economic crisis in your lifetime; therefore, wedding + divorce = no cents (pun intended).
You believe that your relationship will improve after you take your vows. Nope. It won’t. If anything, the two of you will become more settled with one another, progressing into what I call, “the underpants stage.” This is when you don’t care about impressing your mate anymore. You start wearing old ratty granny panties, and he demands that you do the laundry because he can’t be bothered with household chores, and “that’s what wives are for anyway.”
I hope this advice has led you closer to a conclusion about whether or not to call off your engagement. You deserve the very best in life, so whatever you decide, just DON’T SETTLE.