When men are in a relationship at any age there is nothing scarier then meeting her parents. When a man goes to meet his girlfriend’s parents he is being judged with his every move, and if he blows it he can lose a valuable ally in his dating life. Woman and men listen to their parent’s advice, especially about who they are dating, which means if you blow the first impression you may be on the fast track to a hard relationship. This article will provide seven tips for men who are planning to meet their girlfriend’s parents for the first time.
1. Dress nicely
Making a good first impression starts with your appearance, if you are clean cut, dress well, and are properly mannered you will have an easier time making a good first impression. Shave or trim your beard, but never leave it messy. What you wear should fit the occasion, for instance if you are going out to eat you should dress according to the atmosphere at the restaurant. You can never make a second first impression so spend some time picking out the perfect outfit; I recommend asking your girlfriend if you are unsure, since this is a make or break event.
Like most men, I tend to rush and scarf down my food and enjoy sports directly after a meal; however, when meeting her parents for the first time you should take your time. Your manners at the dinner table will tell the parents a lot about who you are outside of this encounter. If you are going out with the parents make, sure you open the car door for your date and the mother as well (although I am sure you do this anyway).
3. Avoid politics
Nothing kills a conversation quicker than different political views. I have made the mistake of bringing up politics the first time I met one of my ex-girlfriend’s parents; there is a reason we are not dating anymore.
4. Talk about what you do and be honest
Maybe you are not going to school to become a doctor or lawyer, but you are probably working or are going to school. Talk about what you do and make it interesting, but do not over embellish or else they will have higher expectations than what you can provide.
5. Stay calm
Meeting the parents for the first time is scary, but you have to be relaxed and calm about the situation or else you are sure to blow it. Keep in mind that they are not out to get you, but they are judging your behavior; therefore, staying calm will help them get a better sense of who you really are.
6. Talk about why you “love” dating their daughter
They may care about your job, or extracurricular activities, but their first priority is their daughter and her well-being. Talk about why their daughter is perfect for you and why you enjoy dating her. If you are meeting, her parents then there must be something special going on; embrace it and show the parents that you really care.
7. Don’t argue
Do not argue with the parents about much of anything, this is the first time you are meeting them, you will have plenty of time for this later. Keep any disagreements to yourself and stay mild mannered when engaging in conversation.